4.22.2011

Let's Talk 'Rebound'

Rebound layout by Nancy Doren

Okay, so I don't always come by to talk about the tutorials.  I was pondering life today and headed over to the Inside Out site for some inspiration and thought I'd stop by here to talk a little about the topic of the month.

This month's topic, if you didn't already know, is Resilience, and I wanted to ask all of you out there... how do you find yourself to be resilient?  As there are many facets to resilience, let's specifically focus on resilience as it refers to rebounding.  Some questions to get you thinking...  and answering, if you want, by commenting.
  • How difficult is it for you to bounce back after you've had a setback in life?
  • Is your ability to regroup different in different arenas of your life?
  • What's the longest time you've been 'down for the count'?
  • Do you give yourself a break when you are unable to bounce back quickly, or are you kind to yourself?
  • What active steps do you take when you need to start yourself toward a rebound?
I, for one, have  always had a hard time rebounding. I hung on too long to relationships that ended, and grieve for those I love who have passed for a very long time.  I remember after a few months had gone by after my mom  died, someone very close to me said to me, "when are you going to get over this?" 

I was hurt and appalled that anyone would ask me such a thing.  Because in my mind, there was no "getting over" it... as in never!  I was really down for the count for a very long time.  I was very slow to rebound and come back to a "normal" way of living.  But I've come to terms with that.  It's okay that it takes me a long time to rebound, as long as I don't get stuck.  On the flip side, it takes a big event to cause such a lengthy rebound.  Typically, I feel I am very resilient  in day-to-day life and events that can throw you for a loop. 

So, looking at the prompts listed above, for me different situations do call for different reactions and lengths of time to rebound.  And that's okay.

How about you?  I'd love to hear how you handle a "rebound", please share!  For more thought provoking prompts on resilience, please visit our Inspiration section at Inside Out!

4 comments:

Chocolate Mousie said...

I don't handle rebounds, I mull them over and stew over them for years. :-P

Ashley Ladd said...

For the first year after my mom died, I was very weepy and sad. It was extremely hard to rebound. There's another family upset that has had me reeling for much longer than that. I don't rebound easily, but I'm maturing and (usually) rebound quicker now.

Shanon said...

First of all...when it comes to losing a parent...I don't think you ever get over it....you simply get used to the feeling. That's been my experience and my mom has been gone almost 7 years. But otherwise....I can't force myself to rebound. It's something that just has to come on it's own in its own time.

Sugar said...

I agree.. after losing a parent ( I lost my mama) you never really get over it. I don't want to. but the pain subsides to a dull ache. it is always there. but we learn to live with it.
I think right now, my biggest setbacks are losing weight. I have lost 40+ pounds so far, and want to lose that much more.. but there are always little setbacks. donuts, chocolate, holidays..etc.. but I always find my willpower and strength and pull through. I am worth it. That's what I have to keep reminding myself of. Every day.